Be the first to be gentle to yourself, then for others
September 30, 2018First Gentle to yourself, then for others
Life is hard. Yet, many of us make it worse by being hard on ourselves. We waste precious time beating ourselves up, wallowing in guilt, or chastising ourselves for mistakes we feel we’ve made. We live in a “Get Over It and Move On” society where we are implicitly or explicitly encouraged to be a certain person or act in a certain way, no matter what the circumstance. We compare ourselves to others and ask ourselves: “What’s wrong with me?”. That is a point from where we start punishing ourselves.So be patient with ourselves.
Somewhere along the overachieving path of seeking perfection and
always looking into the future, we lose touch with our accomplishments.
We fail to recognize gains that we have made. This can lead to
depression, anxiety, guilt, isolation, and defeat. And then we start to lose ourselves from inside.
Our Best version is when we try what we want to do at that moment-
The phrase “be gentle with yourself” may sound like a good idea, but
what does it really mean? The expression represents a philosophy; a new
way of thinking and being that emphasizes the process rather
than the endgame. Being gentle with ourselves means giving ourselves
permission not to be the best that’s humanly possible, but rather to do
the best we can right now. This philosophy reminds us that our version of “best” will look different than anyone else.
We must learn to give ourselves as much time as we need to make our
lives better. This is not a simple process and certainly does not happen
overnight. There is no deadline or “normal” amount of time that it
takes to do something, especially regarding our emotions and life
choices.
Practices need to do-
Be Patient to yourself you are not machine
- Remember that no one is perfect and what really matters is the effort we put forth towards our goal.
- Create time to relax every week and just ‘be’.
Try to do work in pieces and enjoy every piece
- Slow down and simplify tasks.
- Practice saying ‘no’ to commitments that don’t serve your values and simply add unnecessary responsibility.
Give more value to yourself then anything else
- Acknowledge your accomplishments and small successes.
- Take time to celebrate with small rewards instead of rushing to the next best thing.
- Let go of the stories that you replay about the past and the worries you create for the future.
Look Inside
- Journal in the evening before bedtime to peel back layers and uncover what is underneath instead of pushing it away.
- Allow time to embrace the sadness and lean into your fears instead of placing a patch on them.
Somethings you need to do with yourself
- Honor your physical needs. Don't hesitate to do anything you want to do. Mentally and Physically do what you want.
- Stop self-sacrifice when there is no need to do it . Your are not born for doing sacrifices.
- Don't take more responsibility when you have enough. As responsibilities make a person but more responsibilities doesn't give you time to do something for yourself.
- Don't stay in a situation just because you think you need to stay sometimes you internally want some other thing but externally you don't do that.
- Accepting that you are giving your best is more than enough. There is no one perfect in this world.
-Be Gentle.
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