Be Gentle

Be the first to be gentle to yourself, then for others

September 30, 2018


First Gentle to yourself, then for others


Life is hard. Yet, many of us make it worse by being hard on ourselves. We waste precious time beating ourselves up, wallowing in guilt, or chastising ourselves for mistakes we feel we’ve made. We live in a “Get Over It and Move On” society where we are implicitly or explicitly encouraged to be a certain person or act in a certain way, no matter what the circumstance. We compare ourselves to others and ask ourselves: “What’s wrong with me?”. That is a point from where we start punishing ourselves.So be patient with ourselves.


Somewhere along the overachieving path of seeking perfection and always looking into the future, we lose touch with our accomplishments.  We fail to recognize gains that we have made. This can lead to depression, anxiety, guilt, isolation, and defeat. And then we start to lose ourselves from inside.

Our Best version is when we try what we want to do at that moment-

           The phrase “be gentle with yourself” may sound like a good  idea, but what does it really mean? The expression represents a philosophy; a new way of thinking and being that emphasizes the process rather than the endgame. Being gentle with ourselves means giving ourselves permission not to be the best that’s humanly possible, but rather to do the best we can right now. This philosophy reminds us that our version of “best” will look different than anyone else.

We must learn to give ourselves as much time as we need to make our lives better. This is not a simple process and certainly does not happen overnight. There is no deadline or “normal” amount of time that it takes to do something, especially regarding our emotions and life choices.

It is especially important to be gentle with ourselves if we’re doing things that we’ve never done before or that exist outside of our comfort zones. Doing something new for the first time is not easy. Realizing this fact help us to develop more reasonable expectations and to be patient with ourselves as we are still in the process of growing and transforming.
  

Practices need to do-

Be Patient to yourself you are not machine

  • Remember that no one is perfect and what really matters is the effort we put forth towards our goal.
  • Create time to relax every week and just ‘be’.
                                                

 Try to do work in pieces and enjoy every piece

  • Slow down and simplify tasks.
  •  Practice saying ‘no’ to commitments that don’t serve your values and simply add unnecessary responsibility.

Give more value to yourself then anything else

  • Acknowledge your accomplishments and small successes.
  • Take time to celebrate with small rewards instead of rushing to the next best thing.
  • Let go of the stories that you replay about the past and the worries you create for the future.
                                

Look Inside

  • Journal in the evening before bedtime to peel back layers and uncover what is underneath instead of pushing it away.
  • Allow time to embrace the sadness and lean into your fears instead of placing a patch on them.

 Somethings you need to do with yourself

  •  Honor your physical needs. Don't hesitate to do anything you want  to do. Mentally and Physically do what you want.
  • Stop self-sacrifice when there is no need to do it . Your are not born for doing sacrifices.
  • Don't take more responsibility when you have enough. As responsibilities make a person but more responsibilities doesn't give you time to do something for yourself.
  • Don't stay in a situation just because you think you need to stay sometimes you internally want some other thing but externally you don't do that.
  • Accepting that you are giving your best is more than enough. There is no one perfect in this world.
   


      -Be Gentle.

Be Gentle

Be first gentle, then be a gentleman

September 30, 2018


Be first gentle, then be a gentleman

 Be Gentle person is a gender neutral act and everyone man or woman both need to become a gentle person. It is easy to accidentally hurt someone. In order to be a gentle person, you must be careful and thoughtful. You must learn to understand your strengths and control your impulses. Think before you act, reign in your anger, and always consider the consequences.

 

 

 Some of these qualities help you to become a gentle Person.


Intelligence: a gentle person should be well-read in multiple fields of literature, able to competently discourse about the news of his time, and possess an intellectual curiosity that respects the beauty of interdisciplinary thought. As a corollary, he should also be versed in language(s)  to such fluency as will allow him to express his thoughts succinctly and  elegantly. 

Humor: Every gentle person should have in his repertoire the spear of wit, the club of pun, and the blade of irony--for what is the meaning of a life without laughter? 
 
Humility: despite striving for excellence in all he does, a gentle person will never show arrogance. He will never assume the cloak of superiority above another, instead accepting that he will always have much to learn. Vaunts are unacceptable and unnecessary, as prowess married to finesse has a voice of its own.

Compassion: a gentle person should be sympathetic and empathetic to the plights of others, and possess the refined sensitivity to detect discomfort even when not explicitly expressed.
 
Generosity: a gentle person should be giving of his time and efforts to others. He should be quick to offer aid of all forms without prompt, although in balance he should possess the faculties to carefully judge priorities so as not to commit beyond his means.

Punctuality: a gentle person is always early unless courted by such overwhelming forces as could not be foreseen and accounted for--for instance, serving as sole witness to an accident while en route to a previously planned rendezvous. 

Courage: throughout his life, a gentle person will cultivate aptitude both physical and mental such that he may possess the daring to face challenges and tackle obstacles with confidence.

Wisdom: while a gentle person should be passionate, he should possess a temperament cool enough to realize there are occasionally limits, as well as boundaries that should not be crossed. He should understand that anger solves nothing, that recklessness leads to demise, that excess leads to greedy sorrow, and that human bonds should be treasured above all else. 

Aura: the most subtle of qualities, and intangible*--a true gentle person has about him an inexplicable air of quiet strength, a chivalrous feel that commands and gives respect, and an undeniable sense that there is far more than meets the eye.

Love: I have saved the best attribute for last--a gentle person loves his family, his friends, and life. This love is the driving force of all his other qualities, and he will defend it to his dying day.



      -Be Gentleman.

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