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How To Be Punctual ? Why Is It Important?

October 16, 2018

Punctuality depends on the situations and the Mindset of a culture like Some countries have no issue with time where some countries are very serious about time. And also it mainly depends on the situation like If it's a lethal situation (e.g: someone is bitten
by a snake, or a bridge is tearing apart), then it is important. If it's something like, your favorite TV show is about to begin, then, no. Even though it's not threatening, being punctual is important. If life is at the stack, then yes, too. But it depends on your situation that which work you need to be punctual and what not.

One side 

Punctuality is as necessary as brushing teeth.
Not brushing teeth leads to cavities, sickness, smell, and dislikes. Not being punctual leads to shortages, mismanagement, attitudes, and dislikes.

And another side

Too much-brushing teeth may weaken the teeth. Over punctuality may weaken the joy of life.
Pragmatic punctuality is a must!

Why Punctuality is Important-

Being punctual strengthens and reveals your integrity - If you tell someone that you will meet them at a certain time, you have essentially made them a promise. And if you say you’ll be there at 8:00, and yet arrive at 8:15, you have essentially broken that promise. Being on time shows others that you are a man of your word.
Being punctual builds and reveals your discipline - The punctual man shows that he can organize his time, that he pays attention to details, and that he can put aside this to do that – he can set aside a pleasure to take care of business.
Being punctual assures you’re at your best - After riding someone’s bumper, speeding like a maniac, scanning for cops, and cursing at red lights, it’s hard to then turn your focus to making a presentation at a meeting or charming a date – you’re shaky and depleted from the adrenaline and stress. But when you show up on time, better yet a little early, you have a few minutes to collect your thoughts, review your materials, and get your game face on.
Being punctual shows your humility - That bumper sticker maxim: “Always late, but worth the wait” shows that tardiness and an overestimation of one’s worth sometimes go hand in hand. People will be glad to see you when you arrive, but they would have been gladder still had you come on time. 
Being punctual shows your respect for others. Being late is a selfish act, for it puts your needs above another. You want an extra minute to do what you’d like, but in gaining that minute for yourself, you take a minute from another. Which shows you don't respect others time. And so Yours also.
 Being punctual builds your self-confidence. Showing up on time not only tells other people you are dependable, it teaches you that you can depend on yourself. The more you keep the promises you make, the more your self-confidence will grow. And the more you gain in self-mastery, the less you will be at the mercy of your compulsions and habits, and the more in control of your life you will feel.
 Being punctual is a sign of politeness - Politeness is the grace of the Spirit/Mind. Which shows you are a man of words and shows your politeness towards others. 

Advantages-

Got Respect: Punctuality speaks of a person’s respect for others. In giving respect to others we can earn in turn.




Free Mind At Work: An employee who isn’t stressed about reaching late or has come in early enough to give him minutes to settle in before the day’s work begins, has got better chances to get more accomplished than a late comer who feels more pressurized.
Team-Centered Goals: When you're on time for meetings, conference calls and shift changes, you show others that you have team-centered work goals. Punctuality demonstrates your respect for co-workers and clients and reinforces your time-management skills.
Increase Credibility: It might not seem like your job security is based on punctuality, but it certainly doesn't hurt, especially in a struggling economy.
Shows Professionalism: Punctuality is a sign of professionalism and helps you stand out as a reliable and trustworthy employee. If you don't get your part of a project completed on time, you keep others from being able to finish their tasks.
Full Fill Target: To be punctual means to be punctually fulfill the targets. And Increase Your efficiency.

How To Develop Punctuality - 


  1. Punctuality is a habit that can be developed with awareness and  consistent practice.
  2. To become punctual you first need to create a proper schedule for your day.
  3. Being punctual need to understand what is the reason of not be punctual and need to correct it.
  4. Use of the technological means at his or her disposal to remind them that they have to be somewhere at a certain time.
  5. Notifications, calendar entries, phone pings, emails, texts, can ensure you never miss anything.
  6. To create a habit of punctuality you need to work on the core issues for being late. The core of being on time is accountability, discipline and respect.
  7. You can be punctual only by understanding how your brain functions. Once you change the outlook of how you see time - you will definable start being on time.
  8. Punctuality is all a choice and require practice. To gain confidence and respect work on forgiving anger and guilt. 
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Be Caring For Her

October 04, 2018

Men aren’t always the best at expressing their emotions (Of course, not all men are the same) especially for the girl that he really care. Men are much better at letting his girl know that he care about her. for this he done some subtle actions like-

Protecting Him From Public Places-

Holding her hands while crossing the road , as well as make her walk on the right side or left side depending upon the direction vehicle approaches . This way he can make sure that her girl can't be hit by any vehicle . ( It may be silly but consciousness ). Or it may be something as simple as giving her his jacket on a cold night or choosing to watch the movie she want to watch or just ensuring she reach home safe after an evening out. Whatever it is, the man enjoys making her happy and worries about her safety.

Not Only Her also Care Her Family

The Gentleman not only care for his girl he also care for her family and family members too. A guy truly cares when he will take extra more miles to know how his girl family is doing and how well they are doing with her family too . The girl whole happiness could be the man own happiness in such case .

Guide Her as a Master and Support as a Backbone

The Gentleman never teach his girl to be dependent on him but always there to let she take decisions and support it till she reach the success whether it is small or big . Because the gentleman wants her to have best things possible .The gentleman always supports his girl because he believes in her. Either it's a decision to quit jobs or pursuing her hobby.

Never too Busy to Spend Time With Her

A gentleman is never too busy to spend time with his girl. He cares for her and needs to spend time with her.

Apologies For His Work

When A Gentleman is wrong, he sincerely apologizes. Some guys don’t do apologies because they don’t care. They’d rather pretend to be right than admit they may have been wrong. They care about Her hence when they made a mistake, they are willing to own up to it.

By Looking At Her Soul

When The Gentleman looks at His girl, he really looks at her.There’s something in everyone eyes that lets us know the person we’re looking at is seeing us not just looking at our outer self, but looking into our souls.

Can't Stay Mad On his Girl

A Gentleman really cares about his girl will hate fighting with her, so when the argument isn’t too intense, he’ll want to finish it quickly so he can get back to being a good partner. If something's kind of annoys him but isn’t a huge deal, the Gentleman might not even bring it up, just because he hates when the relationship is strained.

Does Things For Her Even He Hates

A guy who makes sacrifices for her girl is a guy who cares. He don’t have to be dramatic, storybook-type sacrifices, like giving up his job or leaving his home or anything that intense. They’re usually not even obvious.When he starts going out of his way to do things that he doesn't really enjoy, it’s pretty clear that he cares about her more than she thought the he did.

By Respecting Her Space

Though it may make her freak out, a guy who gives her enough space may just be subconsciously letting her know how important she is to him.The Gentleman cares about her needs, so while taking time apart is probably inconsistent with his personal wishes, the Gentleman doesn’t want to risk overwhelming her and messing things up.

   

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Be the first to be gentle to yourself, then for others

September 30, 2018


First Gentle to yourself, then for others


Life is hard. Yet, many of us make it worse by being hard on ourselves. We waste precious time beating ourselves up, wallowing in guilt, or chastising ourselves for mistakes we feel we’ve made. We live in a “Get Over It and Move On” society where we are implicitly or explicitly encouraged to be a certain person or act in a certain way, no matter what the circumstance. We compare ourselves to others and ask ourselves: “What’s wrong with me?”. That is a point from where we start punishing ourselves.So be patient with ourselves.


Somewhere along the overachieving path of seeking perfection and always looking into the future, we lose touch with our accomplishments.  We fail to recognize gains that we have made. This can lead to depression, anxiety, guilt, isolation, and defeat. And then we start to lose ourselves from inside.

Our Best version is when we try what we want to do at that moment-

           The phrase “be gentle with yourself” may sound like a good  idea, but what does it really mean? The expression represents a philosophy; a new way of thinking and being that emphasizes the process rather than the endgame. Being gentle with ourselves means giving ourselves permission not to be the best that’s humanly possible, but rather to do the best we can right now. This philosophy reminds us that our version of “best” will look different than anyone else.

We must learn to give ourselves as much time as we need to make our lives better. This is not a simple process and certainly does not happen overnight. There is no deadline or “normal” amount of time that it takes to do something, especially regarding our emotions and life choices.

It is especially important to be gentle with ourselves if we’re doing things that we’ve never done before or that exist outside of our comfort zones. Doing something new for the first time is not easy. Realizing this fact help us to develop more reasonable expectations and to be patient with ourselves as we are still in the process of growing and transforming.
  

Practices need to do-

Be Patient to yourself you are not machine

  • Remember that no one is perfect and what really matters is the effort we put forth towards our goal.
  • Create time to relax every week and just ‘be’.
                                                

 Try to do work in pieces and enjoy every piece

  • Slow down and simplify tasks.
  •  Practice saying ‘no’ to commitments that don’t serve your values and simply add unnecessary responsibility.

Give more value to yourself then anything else

  • Acknowledge your accomplishments and small successes.
  • Take time to celebrate with small rewards instead of rushing to the next best thing.
  • Let go of the stories that you replay about the past and the worries you create for the future.
                                

Look Inside

  • Journal in the evening before bedtime to peel back layers and uncover what is underneath instead of pushing it away.
  • Allow time to embrace the sadness and lean into your fears instead of placing a patch on them.

 Somethings you need to do with yourself

  •  Honor your physical needs. Don't hesitate to do anything you want  to do. Mentally and Physically do what you want.
  • Stop self-sacrifice when there is no need to do it . Your are not born for doing sacrifices.
  • Don't take more responsibility when you have enough. As responsibilities make a person but more responsibilities doesn't give you time to do something for yourself.
  • Don't stay in a situation just because you think you need to stay sometimes you internally want some other thing but externally you don't do that.
  • Accepting that you are giving your best is more than enough. There is no one perfect in this world.
   


      -Be Gentle.

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Be first gentle, then be a gentleman

September 30, 2018


Be first gentle, then be a gentleman

 Be Gentle person is a gender neutral act and everyone man or woman both need to become a gentle person. It is easy to accidentally hurt someone. In order to be a gentle person, you must be careful and thoughtful. You must learn to understand your strengths and control your impulses. Think before you act, reign in your anger, and always consider the consequences.

 

 

 Some of these qualities help you to become a gentle Person.


Intelligence: a gentle person should be well-read in multiple fields of literature, able to competently discourse about the news of his time, and possess an intellectual curiosity that respects the beauty of interdisciplinary thought. As a corollary, he should also be versed in language(s)  to such fluency as will allow him to express his thoughts succinctly and  elegantly. 

Humor: Every gentle person should have in his repertoire the spear of wit, the club of pun, and the blade of irony--for what is the meaning of a life without laughter? 
 
Humility: despite striving for excellence in all he does, a gentle person will never show arrogance. He will never assume the cloak of superiority above another, instead accepting that he will always have much to learn. Vaunts are unacceptable and unnecessary, as prowess married to finesse has a voice of its own.

Compassion: a gentle person should be sympathetic and empathetic to the plights of others, and possess the refined sensitivity to detect discomfort even when not explicitly expressed.
 
Generosity: a gentle person should be giving of his time and efforts to others. He should be quick to offer aid of all forms without prompt, although in balance he should possess the faculties to carefully judge priorities so as not to commit beyond his means.

Punctuality: a gentle person is always early unless courted by such overwhelming forces as could not be foreseen and accounted for--for instance, serving as sole witness to an accident while en route to a previously planned rendezvous. 

Courage: throughout his life, a gentle person will cultivate aptitude both physical and mental such that he may possess the daring to face challenges and tackle obstacles with confidence.

Wisdom: while a gentle person should be passionate, he should possess a temperament cool enough to realize there are occasionally limits, as well as boundaries that should not be crossed. He should understand that anger solves nothing, that recklessness leads to demise, that excess leads to greedy sorrow, and that human bonds should be treasured above all else. 

Aura: the most subtle of qualities, and intangible*--a true gentle person has about him an inexplicable air of quiet strength, a chivalrous feel that commands and gives respect, and an undeniable sense that there is far more than meets the eye.

Love: I have saved the best attribute for last--a gentle person loves his family, his friends, and life. This love is the driving force of all his other qualities, and he will defend it to his dying day.



      -Be Gentleman.

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